Every night in the bedroom should be a night to remember, a night where you feel your body floating in space with nothing to hold you back. This is not just because you had something new, but because you had amazing sex with your partner. Good sex has more power than you can imagine, which is why the use of BDSM is gradually replacing the conventional way of making love.
Are you at the other end, where every night seems like the one you had before? In this case you’re most likely looking fir a way how to spice things up again. Right here, we will be introducing you to the Holy grail of lovemaking where the excitement never ceases and this is no other than the practice of BDSM.
Before we proceed any further, are you ready to explore this world of sexual wonders of BDSM but you don’t know exactly how to tell your partner that you would like to try BDSM? Here are how you can make that happen and get him or her on your side.
How to tell your partner that you would like to try BDSM
The first thing you need is to be clear on what your desires are before approaching your partner. Knowing what you want will give you a clear idea on how to paint an appealing picture in the mind of your partner. Make sure that both of you understand each others needs and you both are willing to try new things. Try not to be too pushy as it might come as a shock to your partner t first. Watching 50 Shades of Grey might also help to get your message across and ease your lover into trying BDSM play.
How to set up the mood
Once your partner is primed for the idea, its time to make the next move. In setting up the mood, you must understand that your partners physical excitement is the key. Make sure there are no kids’ toys laying around, keep the bedroom for adult fun only. Dim the lights or light up some candles, possibly even change a bulb in your night stand lamp for an erotic red. Use essential oils for a light massage and to arouse your partners smell senses. At this time, you can sneak in the first bit of BDSM play and cover your partners eyes with a silk scarf or a real blindfold if you already have one. If your lover is ready you can even tie his or her hands so they cannot touch you. Be patient and don’t try to introduce too many toys all at once.
Lastly, you need to make your lover realize the level of excitement BDSM brings to you. This will prompt your lover into accepting what you want to explore so they’ll be more willing to explore BDSM possibilities with you.
BDSM Toys and fun ways to use them
When it comes to mentioning BDSM toys, the list is endless. However, I’ll share just a few BDSM toys that are great for novice BDSM players.
- Blindfolds – Depriving the sight elevates all other senses resulting in more pleasure and deeper satisfaction. Introducing blindfolds is an ideal way to start your journey.
- Restraints – Giving up the control and surrendering to your lover can be ecstatic experience. Keep in mind that having your arms or legs tied-up is not about being submissive or helpless, it is about discovering your strength by letting go of control and surrendering to physical sensations.
- Spanking Tools – From a soft thud of a suede flogger to a sharp sting of a crop or a paddle, spanking becomes a one-of-a-kind experience that builds anticipation and arouses physical excitement. Spanking tools such as floggers and whips can be used as ticklers for sensual delight, or a disciplinary accessories delivering intense pleasure.
- Gags – The most popular gags are ball-gags where a ball prevents your partner from speaking while you go about the BDSM business.
